ratcheer
ratcheer • San Francisco
Married, but not well. I'd consider an affair but don't need the complication!
Unfortunately my wife doesn't 'talk'. We can never get to the first step without her immediately bringing in all her Suffering and her Burden (which, I think, is really a strategy to avoid honest discussion). If I have a complaint she'll top it somehow, even if she has to reach into her past. This happened in counseling too - a waste of time and money.
BTW she's been told by her friends to not ignore me sexually. But then she treats that like Yet Another Burden. I realize that there's a supply/demand dynamic between men
[mmm - cut off]... between men and women, but sex is something I want to do *together* not something she provides to me as Yet Another Burden. The sex itself is rarely worth it anyway, and then I pay in hearing about her Suffering later.
Grrrr - getting cranky as I think about this!
Sounds like a shitty marriage, luckily there's something called a divorce.
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